When become aware that someone has died, your first impulse is to send a gift to the deceased’s family in their time of grief, but make sure you know and follow good funeral gift etiquette according to their culture. There is an array of gifts that you might consider sending to the anguished family that will ease their suffering and send the message that your thoughts are with them in their time of hardship.
Food: Perhaps the most welcome gift during a time of mourning is that of food. Whether you have meals delivered or drop by with a casserole, the message is that you are thoughtful of the family’s loss. However, be insightful about intruding on the family’s time when delivering the gift. A short visit of about 15 minutes is fitting to deliver the food and say condolences. Proper funeral gift etiquette for food is to give items that require little preparation, such as a Fruit and Cheese gift basket or a comfort food gift basket. Even if you imagine that many people will bring food, your condolence gift basket will last of quite a few weeks without being opened since all the items are shelf stable.
Flowers: The most common funeral gift is flowers. Before you send any, find out if there are certain conditions for funeral flowers depending on the religious association of the deceased. For example, Jewish funeral traditions don’t incorporate flowers while other gifts are considered more appropriate. Others, such as Hindus or Muslims, don’t consider funeral flowers as traditional, but the gesture may be seen as thoughtful by certain groups. Funeral flowers for a Catholic, LDS or Buddhist funerals are proper and welcomed. Consult a florist if you have any doubts, they will be well versed in differenttraditions for funerals.
Gifts to Charity: Memorial gifts are a popular custom that allows money that would normally be spent on luxurious floral arrangements to be chosen for a explicit organization, charity or event. In General, the family will publish a preferred charity in the funeral announcement and request donations in lieu of gifts. Don’t breach funeral gift etiquette by sending flowers if the family has explicitly asked not to.
After the Funeral: Funeral gift etiquette too allows friends and family members to give a fruit and cheese gift basket in the days and years following a funeral. A sincere card or memento on the anniversary of the funeral sends the message that you think about about family members and remember their loss. Even following up with family members a few weeks after the funeral with a meal or a potted plant can have a positive affect on the grieving heart.
Funeral gift etiquette suggests that family members send a thank you card for the bereavement gift baskets or services they got during a time of mourning, don’t be offended if you don’t receive one at all or if it arrives several weeks or months after the funeral. When someone is dealing with grief, time can slip by fast.
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Wednesday, October 7, 2009
In Memory of how to be respectful
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